Why Is It Hard For People To Choose?

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That's a tough question especially if what was asked cannot be simply answered by picking A, B, C, D or all of the above. It happens to me when I'm lost for words or I feel pressured to give an answer straight away. For instance, when people offers to buy you food and you can't give a specific answer. Thus, resulting to the infamous line - "kahit ano" or "any" in English. But, if you are that person who took the initiative to buy someone else's lunch food, you'd probably 1.) get annoyed 2.) return the money back or 3.) throw back a sharp, talk-to-the-hand look and walk out.

So, what do you think should we do to avoid such scenario?

• Listen when people talk or ask. Don't just hear but pay attention to it. Aside from the fact that it was taught in Good Manners 101, you are more definite to provide a better choice when your ears transmitted the question accurately to your brains. That leads you to giving an answer with so much sense. This sounds funny but someone before can't give his choice because he didn't get the question. He just assumed he heard it correctly. 
• Know what you really like. Again, this is tough, but maybe for younger people. I work with professionals on their 30's or so and same goes with my friends, so that already gave us enough time to know ourselves, at least beyond the basics. If not, well that is another serious problem. 
• Take your time. But I did not mean forever, hello?! Digest the question and tell the other person that you're still thinking. 
• Stick to what you always or previously choose. This is always the safest. Though it's good to be experimental at times, it only takes us to a point where our mind turns blank. You have no idea about the other selection which makes the decision-making more difficult, but still you choose something foreign from the list. And what's worse is when you end up paying for something extremely disappointing. Perfect recipe for disaster!
• Ask. The person on the other line may have suitable ideas for you. It won't hurt to give in to a few suggestions plus it also saves time.
• Don't just jump into the bandwagon. Some people turn to this just so they don't end up behind. I usually do this in choosing gadgets. There is surely one thing you want that is uncommonly appreciated by most. It doesn't have to be the most unique or hard to find but should at least meet a certain criteria that only you have set.
• Decline courteously. That is if all else fails. At least, you don't pass on the burden to let them choose what they want for you. 

I'm still thinking of a few more action steps but these could already be a little help. Looking at the bullet points, it looks applicable to many facets in life that involves decision-making noh? Planning to make ligaw or give sagot to your manliligaw? This one's for you too! ^^

xx,
OneGutsyMom